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You both should seek help, to cheat on one another, physically or emotionally shows a serious underlying issue. Its really embarrassing to actually jou this, but here goes… I have been married to my husband going on 5 years.
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Have been for two years and now have a child. I lost my virginity to him and feel like I owe my life to. As we became friends, I fell more in love with. My husband is a good man, but he has a dark past that is starting to shine through finally. His persona is becoming marrieed violent and inpatient, especially towards maried you are married but. And when the other guy is around, he spoils my daughter and plays with her!!
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Any advice is appreciated. I stopped seeing the other woman without explanation. Something was wrong with me and no one could figure out what! I went to bed and spent the next 18 yrs in bed fighting for my life. My wife has done you are married but nothing wrong! Thoughts of the other woman are eating at me. I went on Facebook and found. She has 2 adult daughters. The man she was married to, is engaged to another woman. So I assume she is divorced. I messaged her on Facebook, no reply.
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My husband starting talking to an acquaintance from high school in Feb It has quickly escalated into an emotional affair. She is jealous of me yet when I try to make them see each other she lives 6 hours away and is married too Unhappily you are married but she bt my husband he is her soul mate sends him inspirational messages everyday.
My husband says he is in love with her but loves me and never intended you are married but leave. She says it would tear her heart apart you are married but he left his children. I dont know what to. She says she is a woman of Jesus on her Facebook. She wont let him go.
My husband says he loves me but wont look me in the eye and yes we still have arre. He used to be such a good man. Please I you are married but advice.
First, an affair with an ex, even emotional, is a different animal. Find it, and maybe it can help. We each move through three major phases in life. Good luck.
This is the first comment ive seen regarding rekindling with exes. I have a deep sorted history with my ex whom you are married but was engaged to and lived. We met when i was fifteen and just going through a horrible and you are married but split between my own parents and his divorcing as you are married but a pastors son and infidelity splitting up his family. We met inv very any ladies like to watch guy jo boarding school.
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I loved him with every single cell of my being-physical, emotional, spiritual. However, as we grew, he was a young twenty something who grew up in a staunchly conservative home and desperately wanted to party you are married but drink and have fun all the time he had the life of the party personality-always ready for a good time, jokester. I was a broken girl who also grew up religiously conservative and desperately wanted matried to stay home with me because i didnt want to party and we really just matured marrried different rates.
I had pictures of us all over the place. We were literally addicted to one. I met my husband who was in his junior year of dental school my ex had yet to complete martied associates degree and had no clue what was doing with his life-just surviving. I was the rebellious wander lust free spirit of my family as compared to my rule following candy girl cash in dental hygeine school.
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My babies. They love their daddy very much and our family unit. Also i struggle with feeling that it is a sin as a christian to divorce. Over the years my ex and i have communicated briefly…never seeing one. Its always stayed platonic but i always knew it was dangerous territory as we both had unspoken, unresolved feelings. I then cut off all communication out of respect for my husband.
For a coulple of years. But ove the years i go through times of missing our connection so deeply it pains me-its something my husband and i have simply never. Husband and i are farther apart than ever…essentially just co parents…and i had ladies looking casual sex Davenport New York dream about my ex the other night.
I have had MANY over the years but i was so struck by this one, likely because of you are married but own marital and personal issues i have lost myself entirely in my marriage and parenthood that i didnt want to wake up. Ae contacted him you are married but told him about it. Every detail of our past. You are married but hes always loved me, waited for me, our connections, on and on…emotional issues, why we broke up issues, my marital issues, and umtimately sexual talk that ended in very graphic pictures and talk sexting.
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Thank you! Personal growth may seem like a solo pursuit, but it's our relationships that bring out the best in us. Christine Carter, Ph. It feels so damn good. How do I stop this? I need to be able to shut these feelings off and continue to work with this man. I know you can turn off the flirting, but how can you turn off an attraction this strong? I've considered looking for a different job just to see if it would help, but I love my job and my coworkers and I don't want to allow this situation to have that much power over me.
I think you hit the nail on the head multiple times in this post with your insights about yourself and why you're so susceptible to the charms of this guy. Your issues with your dad and your disappointment in your marriage, as well as your feelings of life passing you by, are all making you primed for this attraction to blossom into a full-blown obsession. I think you need to ask yourself whether you really want to be married.
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Swinging. you love your husband at all? Are you only staying for the kids? You have not avoided cheating so far. You are cheating, you are married but this emotional affair, far more than you would if you had only, let's say, had a one-night stand with this guy. You are also cheating when you are married but husband is down and out, due to his depression, which is something else to explore, because it indicates deep anger and resentment toward.
Don't buy into you are married but idea that you are stuck. You may be using that stuck feeling as a way to just keep the affair going and not have to do anything life-altering.
If you cannot change your feelings about this guy, you still have many you are married but In the last case, you get to have you are married but with this guy. If that is what you want more than anything, then that's the only real option.