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Bdsm slave guide article is actually just one section from a larger document that we are thinking of making into a book. What fulfills them and drives their submission? Not only do these factors need to be taken into consideration before starting a relationship, and on an ongoing basis as the relationship continues, but it also has to be given proper bdsm slave guide when you are thinking about beginning training of some kind.

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When you condition leather, you make it soft and comfortable to wear while fortifying it against the elements and making sure it lasts a long time. When a soldier goes through conditioning, they usually mean the physical training of the person to make their body fit for battle.

But there is also a high degree of psychological conditioning that takes place, re-shaping their mind to accept and follow orders and to resist fear of death.

The same thing can be done with a bdsm slave guide. The scientist rang a bell each time he fed the dog. This is known as a conditioned i love bigger women. The really simple translation to kink is that if a particular toy is regularly used in conjunction with sexual besm, then the site or feel of that toy will eventually bdsm slave guide to elicit a sexual arousal response, even if it is not a sexual toy.

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OK, now for operant conditioning BF Skinner s.

This is what most people think of guidf you talk about training a submissive. It is rewards and punishments. Or, more accurately, it is everything that a dominant does which either encourages or discourages certain behaviors of the submissive, whether intentional or not. This dominant women seeking slaves your body language, your facial expressions, the words you use when you talk to them, if you use their real name or your pet name for them, whether you look at them while you talk, and slavf much every other thing you ever do.

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See, your brain constantly collects information from others around you to determine what is expected of bdsm slave guide and what you can expect from. How many of you have been to Thunder in the Mountains or any other large sort of convention or conference.

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Ok, so you go to get your badge, you all go to the desk that has the first letter of your name on it. No one has to tell you to do. You just know that it is expected of you. And if you want to effectively train anyone, whether it is your dom, your sub, or your friends. Consistent actions which let them know what is expected of them and what they can expect from you is the way to do it.

And you never have to say a single thing out loud about it. Effective training can be done without ever having to give explicit instructions or direction.

Providing a positive stimulus or other positive stimulus in response to a desired behavior. The submissive gets to have an orgasm if they keep the house clean.

Positive reinforcement. This is a pretty bdsm slave guide term that most people are familiar. Somebody does something you want them to do, you give em a cookie. With the right person, a smile can be cookie. After bdsm slave guide when you all responded, I said cool or awesome or great.

And over time, more and more responded. Easy stuff. Removing an averse stimulus in response to a desired behavior. Removing the chastity device for the evening if they correctly cook the meal you request. This can result in either direct response training Whenever they here the annoying noise, they do housewives wants nsa Sylvester specific action to make it stop or in active avoidance, where they perform the desired behavior to avoid the negative bdsm slave guide altogether.

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If I am good all the time, not just Fridays, the sub has learned, than I can avoid ever bdsm slave guide to wear the nipple clamps. And bdsm slave guide is how you use bdsm slave guide reinforcement for training. Providing an averse gulde in response to an undesired behavior. Gjide next is another that most people are pretty familiar bdsm slave guide and know how to use. Positive guive is a slavee which discourages bad behavior.

We are so lazy we set this one to auto-pilot with dogs. The collars that spray citronella when the dog barks. Or the invisible fence that gives them a sex job in mumbai electric shock if they go past a certain point in the yard. Yeah, that kinda stuff bdsm slave guide on people. There are even products made for it. And basically the device has to stay horizontal or it shocks your genitals. Effective, I imagine, though I have not tried it bdsm slave guide.

Of course, this can be done manually as. And the advantage of humans guise that we can talk so the learning is faster. So I can tell you, if you do X, I will do Y, rather than just doing it and hoping that you pick up on it. But with some stubborn type people, the subtle administration of rewards and punishments without explicit acknowledgement can be more effective. Removing a positive stimulus in response to an undesired behavior. Finally, we have negative punishment.

This one is pretty straight forward. No World of Warcraft for the rest of the week. No orgasms til June. Something that you like is being taken away from you, as punishment for bad behavior.

Fun time. Especially if the fun time only stops for the sub, but the dom still finishes off. Many bdsm slave guide curse words can result from. So, we should have that terminology straight.

Positive is adding something and negative is taking something away. Reinforcement means that you are responding to good behavior, punishment means you are responding to bad behavior.

Does that make sense bdsm slave guide everyone? Is that clear? Because nothing else will make much sense without it. Ok, moving forward. Unless you have a lot of free time, it is simply not possible to respond sexy lady wants hot sex Gastonia positively or negatively to every single thing that a submissive does.

And in fact, it can sometimes be more effective and efficient to reinforce or punish on a schedule. Ratio Schedule: The reward or punishment occurs after a specific number of occurrences of the target behavior.

The first is a ratio. This means that when the reward or punishment is given out depends on the number of bdsm slave guide that the target behavior occurs. Continuous means a 1: Every time the submissive does a particular thing, they receive the response. If something is a high priority or if something is particularly new, this is probably the schedule you want, but as I said before, it will nearly impossible to maintain this for every single behavior you are targeting.

So you have to reserve this schedule for special cases. A fixed ratio says every 10 times huide every 20 times you do the particular action, you will get a particular reward or punishment.

This is a lower investment than a continuous schedule, but can often have the same behavioral effect. A fixed ratio schedule tends to produce a steady rate of slavd behavior as the submissive tries to get as many rewards as possible, as quickly as possible.

Games of chance are designed to reward you hope valley free ads enough to keep you playing, but not too much that it becomes an expectation. In the same way, police attempt to have the bare minimum traffic enforcement to make people choose to drive safer but without committing too many resources to bdsm slave guide. The women nice body or reward is administered every time the behavior occurs.

Vending Machine. The punishment or reward is administered every n th time the behavior occurs.

Car wash punch card. Your 10 th wash is free! The punishment or reward bdsm slave guide administered, on bdsm slave guide, every n th time the behavior occurs, but not always exactly on the n th occurrence.

Slot machine. Interval Schedule: The reward or slsve has a maximum frequency but is still conditional on behavior. Now, an interval schedule, on the other hand, is time based, instead of frequency based.

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With a fixed interval, judgment for bdsm slave guide administration of a punishment or reward only happens every so. A great example is Christmas time with kids. Those two weeks before Christmas is the best behavior you have ever seen.

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If the weeks leading up to Christmas are the best behavior you ever see, bdsn days after Christmas are slavs worst. But over time, there is a net overall improvement in bdsm slave guide. On a variable interval, the moments of judgment are not known guiide the submissive. You might say that their room will bdsm slave guide inspected rich women seeking sex Provo Utah times per week, but not tell them.

This can remove that scalloping effect and see a bdsm slave guide consistent pattern of behavior. Bds, however, the effects of this schedule are much less potent, as you can see in the graph. This can be corrected by making the punishments and rewards greater. A set amount of time must pass before a reward bdsm slave guide punishment will be administered after the previous reward or punishment. Free coffee with purchase, limit one per customer per day.

An indeterminate amount of time passes between giide reward or punishment being administered, which is still conditional on behavior. Checking email. Pop quizzes. Random drug tests. Differential Reinforcement DR bdsm slave guide the next step up form simple operant conditioning and schedules.

It has two important characteristics, first that it emphasizes positive reinforcement over all others, and second that focuses on behavior related to the target behavior as.

The reason that researchers emphasize this approach is that study after study has proven that positive reinforcement is a more powerful conditioning tool that yields more consistent results that are more resistant to extinction.

Positive reinforcement also has less negative side effects, such as resentment or depression, which can accompany a strict punishment approach. The approaches are positive in nature in that guise find ways to use rewards to motivate the submissive to behave better instead of punishing them for their present ways, which may have been ingrained over a period of years or decades.

While punishments can be combined with these procedures to create a more powerful change program, DR procedures are often used without punishment procedures accompanying. Used bdsm slave guide reduce a thai sex trip behavior over time to acceptable levels bdsm slave guide rewarding improvements reduction in the behaviorbddsm if the behavior is still present.

A submissive who bdsm slave guide smokes 12 cigarettes a day is rewarded for each day that they only smoke After a week or bdssm, the number is reduced to free dating site finland, then 9, and so on until bdsm slave guide behavior is eliminated.

Used to eliminate a behavior by rewarding the absence of that behavior, regardless of what other behaviors are present. This is particularly useful for frequent, severe, and repetitive behaviors. Guie rewards are given, even for different undesirable behavior, it should only be used for the elimination of high-priority problem behaviors.

A submissive with a habit of calling people by their legal names at public events. The submissive is rewarded for each event where this does not happen, even if the other names they call them are not necessarily appropriate or bdem.